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Lobsters & Latkes 2025

Jewish Lobster

Lobsters & Latkes 2025

Lobsters & Latkes 2025

Jewish Lobster 11/24/25 Jewish Lobster 11/24/25

COMFORT IS A HEAVY SCARLET SHELL UNDER OCEANIC PRESSURE.

Most people mistake their shell for their self. The lobster knows better.

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Releasing Stigma, Distilling Truth

This is the work of Jewish Lobster.

Releasing the stigma means:

I am an alcoholic. Present tense. Proudly.

Not because I glorify the damage or romanticize the crisis, but because alcoholism gave me something I couldn't find any other way: an unbearable bottom that forced me to finally look directly at the architecture that built me.

Without alcoholism, I'd still be functional. Still performing. Still dying slowly from the inside while looking fine from the outside. Still convinced my worth depended on disappearing into whatever shape others needed.

Alcoholism made that impossible. And that impossibility saved my life.

Releasing stigma means: claiming the identity without shame, recognizing the crisis as necessary, understanding that the path through addiction can be a path toward freedom.

Distilling the truth means:

Looking directly at the childhood topography where my personal cipher for alcoholism was encoded. Not in obvious places—dramatic trauma, clear abuse—but in the nooks and crannies. The daily patterns. The subtle injuries. The repeated adaptations that built a False Self so convincing I thought it was just me.

The undiagnosed ADHD nobody noticed. The intrinsic parental authority I couldn't question. The empathy that got weaponized against me. The performance that earned love while presence stayed optional.

Each of these—small on their own—accumulated into architecture that made alcoholism adaptive. Made it look like solution, not problem. Made it feel like dream job, not destruction.

Distilling truth means: examining the mechanisms without shame or blame. Understanding how the traps work. Recognizing the parts and their jobs. Seeing clearly enough that you can take the trap apart.

The work happens concurrently:

Releasing stigma creates space to distill truth. Distilling truth releases more stigma. The seeing and the changing happen together.

That's the methodology. That's Jewish Lobster.

Not a program to follow. Not steps to work. But a framework for understanding traps so clearly you can't get stuck in them again.

Because you can't get stuck in the same lobster trap once you take it apart.

And taking it apart requires both: releasing the stigma that keeps you from looking, and distilling the truth of what you see when you finally do.